Twenty five years ago, we met face to face for the very first time. That’s right folks, my Zoë Elizabeth is twenty five years old!
She steals my breath every time I regard her while basking in her warm, bright, shining face.
Twenty five years ago I was her mother and she was my child. Through the years we challenged one another in many ways. There were the times where I did find myself saying out loud, “I am not your friend, I am your mother.”
I might have even screamed it through an abruptly slammed door. But that is part of being a parent. I won’t lie, I wanted to be her friend. I have always loved talking to her, laughing with her, playing with her. Yesterday she called me her friend and at twenty five, we are at a place where we can be friends.
Always her mother, always my daughter, and now my friend.
Happy birthday cheers my darling daughter and friend!
I’m really glad to be fifteen, Mom. And you know what the best part is? I’ll get to get my driver’s permit and practice driving.
Why does my favorite son now imagine that this is the time to take a page from a sister’s, or another sister’s adolescent life story to give me heart failure?
True, today my son is fifteen; which makes us all old here. Remember when I first began this adventure and he was that adorable sweet-faced three year old?
Well, he still has a very sweet face.
A sweet face with the shadow of a mustache and peach fuzz and baritone voice that reminds me that he thinks the best thing about turning fifteen is he will soon be able to get his learner’s permit…in six months and one day and AFTER he completes driver’s education which will be offered in his freshman year next school year.
I look at this young man I call son and am reminded that the fact he is alive is a miracle. Will I ever not pause to honor the memory of that early morning, the day that he was born? How tiny and fragile he was and, at the same time, how strong he was?
Likely never. Sorry, son.
But today I celebrate that day and the young man standing before me. Happy birthday my favorite son!
Thirty years ago, I embarked an adventure. I was fearful of the changes that were to come, but I was more anxious believing all the declarations that there would be nothing but pain that would take me into this adventure; and that there was literally nothing that I could do about it.
Accept it, they told me. Submit to it, I was advised. Wisdom passed down to me by those who had been there and done that…and who shaped me into the person who believed that I had no strength, no power in anything.
And then, Hollie was born. Thirty years ago.
Thirty years ago, I began to see some of my deepest fears about myself and realized that I was so much stronger than them.
Birth is the sudden opening of a window, through which you look out upon a stupendous prospect. For what has happened? A miracle. You have exchanged nothing for the possibility of everything.
– William Macneile Dixon
From my nothing, or at least the nothing I was raised to believe to be true about myself came the possibility of everything. Thirty years ago today, it all began.
Thirty years ago today, it all began with her.
Here again I literally gasp out loud finding it hard to believe that I am the part of someone so beautiful in all the ways…in spite of the million mistakes I have made along the way of this adventure. But I am.
Thirty years ago began the adventure.
Happy birthday my dear, darling daughter. Thanks for making me Mom.
Five is Fallon; who ever remains fancy and fabulous and funny. But today, she is five.
A whole hand.
Commence now the talk about where has the time gone because…Where. Has. The. Time. Gone?????
Her mother is wondering that right now. Me, I’ll be feeling the same and even more next month when my little girl hits a big milestone birthday of her own. But for now we shall celebrate being fancy and fabulous and funny and five and Fallon.
It’s the day after Democalypse 2016 and like literally everyone else, I have way too many feelings going on…not good feelings…feelings that made me not want to get out of bed, like ever. But the sun does come up and the Earth still spins and my son needed to be sent off to school and, well it’s another day.
Most importantly, it is her day.
Today is all about this amazing, smart, determined, beautiful woman. My Abigael Rose is 23 years old today. It’s HER DAY!
Tomorrow can be for all the stages of grief and trying to convince myself that it’s going to be okay. It will be…I hope.
Today I’m going to eat cake with my daughter.